of themselves quickly and were doing something very wise—reaching out for help. I was delighted to help, and I knew that the journey we were about to take together would change them and their marriage. Here is what I have told couples again and again. It is what I have endeavored to live in my own marriage as well. The reconciliation of a marriage must be a lifestyle, not just the response you have when things go bad. Consider why this must be the case. If you are a sinner married to a sinner—and